Inverness, Tain
and Portmahomack feature in ‘the Saint Columba Trail’, one of six Scottish ‘Pilgrim
Journeys’ being promoted by the Scottish Churches Trust. Co-director of the
Trust, Dr Brian Fraser says ‘We are finding there is a great upsurge in
interest in pilgrimage from a spiritual point of view.’ Young people especially, he adds ‘are keen on
the idea of walking your faith rather than talking your faith.’
In a sense we
are all pilgrims, for the journey of our lives is a kind of pilgrimage. There
will be time for talking our faith, but the way we walk – the way we live –
shows how real to us what we say we believe actually is.
Carol Hughes,
widow of the poet Ted Hughes announced recently that she is to write a book
about their marriage ‘while I have full recall and no false memory.’ As
pilgrims, we are storytellers, making sense of where we are by recalling
earlier stages of the journey. But I think Carol Hughes is optimistic – none of
us has full recall, none of us can be sure there are no false memories.
Many of us find
that as we grow older the events we choose to highlight in the story of our
lives, and the way we interpret those events changes. This can be a bad thing,
if for example we hide from past events we can’t face up to, or allow old
wounds to fester, or use the past as an excuse for what we are in the present.
But
re-interpreting the past can be helpful if, for instance, we come to a
level-headed acceptance of where we’ve messed up, or grow in understanding of
and empathy with those who have messed us up.
And I guess the
more real faith is to us, the more the story we tell will centre not on Me but
on God.
A personal
example. Until recently when telling my story I blamed the churches I attended
as a teenager for making me the anxious worrier I am, as I was paralysed by
fear of judgement and of being ‘left behind’ at the return of Christ. I also
blamed these churches for failing to understand and affirm my inability to
connect with and feel part of worship as others seemed able to do.
I now realise
that, like it or not, a tendency to anxiety and depression and an inability to
release myself into, and engage in communal activities such as worship and
concerts is part of my make-up.
The churches I
attended were in some respects unwise and insensitive, and I was exposed to
elements of ‘toxic religion’ but the extent of my pain was due to me being who
I am. Recognising this enables me both
to be free from a sense of victimhood, and free to forgive those who, through
lack of empathy, messed me up, and this is liberating.
Another example.
For many years in thinking about my parents, I focussed not on their undoubted
practical care and love for me but on what I saw as their failure to understand
me, to really communicate with me, to encourage me to be my own person. Since
they passed away, I have grown in compassion for them.
I understand that my mother struggled with sadness and depression, and that my father was desperately protective towards her. I accept that in the past I have put more weight on what I felt was at the same time both emotional smothering and emotional neglect, and downplayed the extent of their love for me.
I understand that my mother struggled with sadness and depression, and that my father was desperately protective towards her. I accept that in the past I have put more weight on what I felt was at the same time both emotional smothering and emotional neglect, and downplayed the extent of their love for me.
I see them as
flawed people, like I am, like we all are, people in whose pilgrimage there was
more than an occasional glimpse of glory and I feel for them compassion and
forgiveness.
In ways like
this, we all look back at the earlier stages of our journey from the
perspective of the lessons life has taught us. Though the future is unknown, it
is good to look ahead and to dream of ways the journey might develop. And
again, as our understanding of ourselves and our past deepens, so our vision of
the future will change.
The past has
taught me that whatever lies ahead, there will always be change and learning,
and the breaking-in of unexpected things; there will be fellow-travellers given
for mutual encouragement; and though God will often seem far away, there will
be times of clarity when I know God is there, and that I am loved.
As pilgrims, we
do not travel alone, for we believe God journeys with us though sometimes
invisible. At the end of the journey we will see the whole story stretching
behind us. And in the dimension beyond will we have full recall, and no false
memories?
(Christian Viewpoint column from the Highland News dated 17th January 2013)
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