A sermon preached at Hilton Church, Inverness on 21st July 2013
Bible reading: Luke 10:38-41
These
verses report a domestic conversation which took place almost 2000 years ago,
which we are remembering and discussing today. Just imagine if the
conversations which take place in our living rooms were recorded and recalled!
Those
of us who come to church regularly are probably familiar with this story.
Martha and Mary were sisters, who lived in Bethany, not far from Jerusalem with
their brother Lazarus. Martha seems to have been the home-owner – possibly she
was a widow. This is the Mary who, on
another occasion, anointed Jesus’s feet with expensive perfume (John 12:1-8)
My
wife Lorna pointed out to me that in Jesus’ time, it was men, not women who sat
at the feet of a rabbi, and so Mary’s action, and the encouragement she was
given in that action by Jesus were both countercultural. Today, perhaps it is
women more than men who are more likely to be religious – and it is
countercultural for men to be willing to be seen sitting as it were at the feet
of Jesus. Or perhaps these days, when there is such emphasis on busyness and
activism, all reflective stillness is seen as deeply and provocatively
countercultural.
We
read these stories from the Gospels because we believe that with God’s help we
can learn lessons from the stories which will make a difference when we apply
them to our own lives.
So
what can we learn from the story of these two sisters?
I
think there are answers to two questions in this story.
- What
is the distinctive feature of Christian faith?
- How
do I balance resting in God, and doing stuff for God?
We
will find that the answer to the first question is that Christian faith is
first and foremost about encounter with God rather than following a program.
We
will find that the answer to the second question is that we are getting the
balance right when the stuff we do for God flows from encounter with God.
But
let’s unpack the story by looking at the personalities of the two women
involved. Many of us have been familiar with Martha and Mary for years. Martha,
the doer. Mary the contemplative. We’ve asked ourselves whether we have the
Martha personality type or the Mary personality type. Of course men too share
these personality traits so we could be talking of the brothers Martin and
Matthew rather than the sisters Martha and Mary!
But
let’s look at these women, beginning with Martha. I personally feel I
understand Martha very well, because I have a Martha-type personality!
Martha
According
to Jesus, Martha got it wrong, worrying her head off over what needed to be
done to get tea on the table rather than chilling with Jesus and her
sister. Now we’re not given enough
information to give an accurate psychological profile of Martha, but what
dynamics in our own lives could give rise to behaviour like Martha’s?
1. Forgetting
that we don’t need to worry. Martha was getting frantic about preparing the
meal. Perhaps she was aiming to deliver a rather more sumptuous feast than was
necessary. But she had forgotten some basic teaching of Jesus. Therefore I tell you, do not worry about
your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear.
Is not life more important than food, and the body more important than clothes?
Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns,
and yet your heavenly father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than
they? (Matthew 6:25-26) Or perhaps when Jesus was sharing that bit, she was
too busy doing something else to hear. It is hard not to worry, and many of us
do worry, but Jesus assures us that our lives and our futures are in God’s
hands and that we don’t need to worry.
2. Being
over-busy. It’s likely that Martha was
trying to do more than was strictly necessary. We too often fill our lives with
busyness, and persuade ourselves that it’s a good way to be. Why are we over
busy?
- Perhaps
we feel as Christians that only holy stuff – helping at church, volunteering
with Christian charities – counts as work done for God. And so on top of our
day jobs, or looking after our kids we try to add another layer of activity,
the God stuff, the stuff which, we feel, really matters. And so we end up with
feverish, action packed lives. But in fact every last thing we do can be done
for God: stocking shelves in Asda; changing a baby’s nappy; encouraging a
friend who is depressed; washing dishes. ‘Thank you Father God that you are
with me in this task. Thank you that I can make a difference in everything I
do, helping to sustain and repair a broken world.’ It is all for God, and
grasping that is a wonderful liberation.
- Perhaps
we feel that somehow we’re different, that somehow we are beyond the pale of
God’s wonderful, accepting, gracious love, that God lays heavy burdens on us,
that he will only love us if we perform and serve, and yet it never seems that
we’ve done enough. We’ve somehow been indoctrinated with the thought that love
is conditional upon our behaviour and performance. ‘Martha, Martha, God loves
you. God accepts you. Nothing you can do will make God love you a fraction more
than he has loved you from the moment you were conceived. Nothing you can do
will make God love you a fraction less than he has always loved you. Serve God
because you are secure and loved and because you love God, not because you have
to.’
- Perhaps
we are busy because we feel somehow, that it’s all down to us. That if we don’t
do x, y, or z, then it won’t be done. And there always seems to be more and
more to do, until we end up frazzled and burned out. It is not all down to me.
I’m one of a vast community of God’s children. And if some things don’t get
done, then I need to learn that if I am open to that inner sense calling me to
what is important for me to do – as Jesus listened to the inner sense as he
wisely used his time – then I can leave with God the things which I can’t do.
It’s not easy, but if we are to survive and to thrive we need to learn to do
what we are called to do in a given day, and leave the rest.
- Trying
to make others as busy as we are because we do not understand their centredness
and it threatens us. Martha asked Jesus to say to Mary that she should really
get up and help. (v40) Are we sometimes guilty of spiritual blackmail, making
people whose lives are not as hectic as ours feel guilty and join us on the
treadmill. Do we ever project the message that ‘busy is best?’ And what about
those who would love to be busy but can’t, for whatever reason? What message is
our emphasis on activism giving them?
3. But
some personality issues can also be involved in making us too busy
- A
need to be needed. Some of us will be familiar with this. Somehow we find our
meaning and purpose in helping others, in having those who are dependent upon
us, and so we crave engagement to meet our own needs. ‘Martha, Martha, your meaning and purpose is
rooted in your identity as my precious daughter; you are my child, and that
fact fills every moment of your existence with meaning. Don’t seek to earn the
meaning with which your life is already invested. Rest in me, and help others
in my name and for their own sake, not to meet needs in yourself which have, as
I will continue to teach you, been already met.’
- A
need always to be host in relationships, never guest. When we are balanced and
healthy, sometimes we will be ‘host’ in relationships, ministering to the
other; at other times we will be the ‘guest’ allowing others to help and bless
and minister to us. Some of us feel it easier to be in control, to be the one’s
doing the ministering. We don’t like to be in a vulnerable situation because we
have not yet faced up to our own weaknesses and vulnerabilities. We must learn
to be guests as well as hosts. And above all, as Martha was taught, to be a
guest at the feet of Jesus.
- Perfectionism.
Do we add to the busyness of our lives because we try to do everything just perfectly?
It is great to do good work, but none of us is perfect. We don’t need to be
perfect parents, employees, church members, because we can’t be. God is
perfect, not us. God helps us, and with his help we can be ‘good enough’, but
it’s not in our humanity to be perfect. I always remember William Barclay
writing that ‘if a thing’s worth doing, it’s worth doing badly.’
- A
fear of stillness. Some of us are so busy because we can’t cope with the bustle
of wild thoughts which floods our minds when we try to still our hearts. And
we’re not really sure what sitting at the feet of Jesus would look like in
practical terms. Some people talk about having, and seem so sure about having a
‘relationship with Jesus’, but all we’ve experienced is the silence of heaven,
or, sometimes a faint whisper that may just have come from God, and it seems a
really odd kind of relationship. It’s easier just to fill our lives with
busyness. We’re afraid of being still in case we hear nothing from God. ‘Martha,
Martha I love you. My friends hear me in different ways; some hear me more
clearly than others, but I love each of them equally. Be still, and listen, be
ready for me to speak in ways you don’t expect, and I promise you that you will
hear from me.’
4. Not
choosing the ‘one thing’, the ‘better thing’ (v42) This is the fundamental
issue. Get this right and we will be on the road to healing of all the problems
and issues we’ve been discussing. If on the other hand, rather than founding
our lives on Jesus, we have many goals, many gods, then we will be torn apart.
The more we can find the way to centre our lives on Jesus in the hurly-burly of
everyday life, the more peace and purpose we will experience.
So
that’s some of the lessons from Martha. What about Mary?
Mary
We
were looking at Martha’s problems and issues. Are there problems and issues associated
with the contemplative personality?
I can
imagine – and here as a ‘Martha’ I am not speaking from experience – there
might be some. I suppose it would be possible to so focus on contemplation and
stillness that we fail to act when the time for action comes. I suppose there
might be a temptation to pride that somehow we are ‘further in’ with Jesus than
other Christians.
But
Mary’s priority – the priority of listening to Jesus – is praised by Jesus, and
so if we are to heal our over-busy lives and fulfil our role in repairing a
broken world then we need to learn the way of reflective stillness.
I
personally find this very hard. The other week I paid my first visit to the
Bield, the Christian retreat centre in Perth where I spent a couple of days.
After I’d walked the Labyrinth, and taken a stroll round the garden, and had a
session with someone who listened as I discussed where I was on my faith
journey and gave some helpful responses, I sat back and wondered ‘what do I do
next’?
When
I was telling this afterwards to Iain Macritchie, he told me ‘just be, John.’
What I actually did was to pop out to Tesco for the paper.
But I
am learning ‘to be.’ Simply to rejoice in being loved by God, God’s child in God’s
world, needing to do nothing to earn love or acceptance. But even this
stillness comes as a gift. I can’t generate it, I can only, knowing me need of
it, create the circumstances in which the gift may, or may not be given.
And,
perversely, seeking silence, seeking reflective stillness can become simply
another thing to do, another activity to fit in.
Duncan
quoted from a book the other Sunday which I have found really helpful. It’s
called An Altar in the World and it’s
by an American Episcopalian priest Barbara Brown Taylor. I enjoyed her take on
the Sabbath.
The
Sabbath is the principle of rest given to the Jewish people, every seventh day,
every seventh year, and in the 50th year, the year of Jubilee. After creation, God rested from all his work. And God blessed the seventh day and made it
holy, because on it he rested from all the work of creating that he had done.
(Genesis 2:2b-3)
When
I was a kid, Sundays were boring. You were only allowed to read holy kids’ books
and they really were dire. And then I grew up and heard the teaching that in
Jesus we have a kind of perpetual Sunday – we are resting in what he has done
for us, and don’t need to work to earn salvation – and so we can be more
relaxed about the actual day. Now it is absolutely true that we find rest in
this way in Jesus, but I was puzzled as to why Sabbath keeping is up there in
the Ten Commandments if it isn’t timelessly relevant like the others.
And I
was touched by my old friend John Brown in Edinburgh, long since passed away,
whose Sabbath began at 4pm on Saturday when all the garden tools were put away,
and he had a bath and had his tea, and prepared for the Saturday evening prayer
meeting at Holyrood Abbey Church, and the stillness of Sabbath hung around him.
Barbara
Taylor describes her discovery of Sabbath:
I went out on the front porch and
said morning prayer with the birds. Then I read until lunchtime. Then I made an
egg sandwich. Then I took a nap. By the time the sun went down, I realised that
I had just observed my first true Sabbath for more than twenty years. In the
years since then, I have made a practice of saying no for one whole day a week:
to work, to commerce, to the Internet, to the car, to the voice in my head that
is forever whispering, ‘More!”’ One day each week, More God is the only thing
on my list.
She
quotes a Jewish rabbi who said that the seventh day was ‘a palace in time’ into
which human beings are invited every single week of our lives.
For
some of us, of course, a whole day just isn’t possible, but finding times of
Sabbath each day and each week is vital for our spiritual health. ‘Only one
thing is needed.’
So
where does this leave us with our two questions?
- What
is the distinctive feature of Christian faith?
The
distinctive feature of the Christian faith is that is not a religion of earning
God’s love by keeping rules or jumping through hoops. It is a religion of
accepting that God loves you, and basing your life on his reality and in so
doing find joy and freedom and the challenge to make a difference.
- How
do I balance resting in God, and doing stuff for God?
The
secret is to integrate our resting in God and our actions, so that our actions
don’t compete with our openness to God, but express it, so that our every
action flows from our awareness of God’s presence. Every day of our lives we
are challenged to live out that secret in the nitty gritty of life, and often
we will fail but we know that whether or not we fail, we are secure in God’s
love.
So
what should have happened that day at Bethany? Well, they had to eat. They
couldn’t send out for an Indian. Perhaps they should have aimed at a more
modest menu than Martha planned? Perhaps they should have sat together chilling
with Jesus and listening to him, and then together gone to the kitchen and
fixed the meal together, and asked Jesus to come through and given him a glass
of cool red wine to drink as he watched them cooking so that the three of them
could still enjoy one another’s company.
- Have
I found the treasure, the ‘one thing’ that is needed, or am I still, even
without being aware of it, in pursuit of lesser treasures?
- Have
I chosen what is better? What choices face me to today? How has our reflection
on Martha and Mary helped me make my decision?
And
to finish with the beautiful writing of Barbara Brown Taylor, writing, I think
not just about the Sabbath day, but about every day, days flowing from that
connectedness to Jesus which Mary exemplified:
Your day begins when you let God hold
you because you do not have the slightest idea how to hold yourself – when you
let God raise you up, when you consent to rest to show you get the point, since
that is the last thing you would do if you were running the show yourself. When
you live in God, your day begins when you lose yourself long enough for God to
find you, and when God finds you, to lose yourself again in praise.
