When we were
going into Hilton Church in Inverness last Sunday, they gave us each a bauble
to put on the church Christmas tree. I thought this was a lovely idea, giving
everyone a sense of togetherness, a sense of the church as family.
That morning, my
wife was teaching young children at the church she attends about the birth of
Jesus. She gave each child photos of the people in their family. The children
pasted these pictures on a sheet of card Lorna gave each of them, at the top of
which a prayer was printed: ‘Just like you gave Jesus a family to be born into,
thank you God that you gave me a lovely family.’
I was moved at
the Hilton service by a prayer led by the Rev Hector Morrison. He prayed, among
other things, for people in the church and in the community who were parents of
still-born children, or of babies who died in the days immediately after their
birth. And he prayed for those who lost children in this way many years ago
when hospital staff were less aware of the needs of people in their situation,
so that they weren’t permitted to hold, or even to see their dead child.
Hector prayed for
peace and closure for those who were desperately wounded in this way. I am sure
that God brought healing and hope through the very saying of these words, the
very acknowledgement of hidden pain.
This is church
at its best – not hiding from people’s pain, but through actions and words
embracing those in pain with the love of God.
74-year-old Dr
Anne Townsend – medic, missionary, Church of England minister and
psychotherapist - is a lady who has been influential in my life, mainly through
her books but also in one or two letters and a couple of phone calls. This
week, I read addresses she and her husband Dr John Townsend gave at a
conference on Christian attitudes to ageing.
Anne spoke about
her mum, a redoubtable lady who lived beyond the age of 100 and who, despite having
been deprived of speech by a stroke, loved life. Anne told both horror stories
about Christian attitudes to her mum – the clergy who couldn’t be bothered to
visit the old lady in her care home, giving the impression that they had more
important things to do – and stories of grace and acceptance – the Christian
who engaged with, and welcomed her mum, took her to church in her wheelchair,
and made her at home at family events where she often had the healing joy of
holding and cuddling babies.
John Townsend
spoke of his diagnosis with Alzheimer’s disease, and the reaction of his
friends when he told them. He found that some people were afraid of losing the
John they had known for so long, and that rather than being the one supported,
he had to help others cope with his diagnosis.
Some people
abruptly changed the subject, some refused to accept he actually had the
condition. Only a few really listened as he shared his fear of losing his
identity, of being marginalised, and above all of losing in the grey mist the
sense of God which daily sustains him.
By the time the
service at Hilton Church began on Sunday, the Christmas tree was festooned with
a motley assortment of baubles – big and small, plain and embellished, shiny
and matt. Just as, in the church family, we are all different, with different
stories and different needs. Young, old and in-between. Healthy or unwell.
Strong or weak in faith. Joyful or depressed. Heterosexual or gay. Struggling –
with finance, with addictions, with relationships, with life.
All the kids Lorna
worked with on Sunday were indeed born into lovely families, but the fact is
that some of the people in any church on any Sunday will come from families
where not everything is lovely. How important that, as a church, we are family
to everyone who comes through the door. We all belong on that tree.
We need to
listen to one another, to empathise, to be aware of our own fears and agendas
and set them on one side. The Christmas message is that in that baby, God came
among us. God is with us. God knows us. God cares for us. God’s agenda involves
us. God is not afraid or indifferent. God loves us.
The church
family is not always as ‘lovely’ as it should be, but ultimately it is not
something we struggle to create, but something God is at work on, a community
where we can encounter more deeply what a speaker at the conference John and
Anne Townsend addressed described as ‘the Love that is at the heart of all
being.’
(Christian Viewpoint column from the Highland News dated 13th December 2012)
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